Eight Things to Do Instead of Beating Your Child

Posted on August 2, 2007 in Latest News

What would you prefer to do when your child does something ‘wrong’, beat the child or not? Many parents beat or spank their kids thinking only this can solve the problem. But the researchers say, it’s not so. And, when you keep beating your child for every fault he/she does, the child may end up having a low self esteem and may also get into depression. Instead you can adopt some alternatives which can easily solve the issues without any need to hurt your kid.

1. Be peaceful

If your child makes you angry with any of his/her acts, just move out of that situation. Try to analyze what the real problem is. When you know it you can easily come up with some peaceful solution. So, stay calm and peaceful instead of getting angry and stressing yourself. Remember – only a calm mind can give you the right solution.

2. De-stress yourself

Sometimes when you are frustrated, you show it on your kid by beating though there is no fault on his/her part. So, you have to de-stress yourself by using various healthy techniques like meditation, exercise etc. Definitely, when you are away from stress, you can be the best parent.

3. Be compassionate but firm

When children go wrong, as a parent you need to correct them. If they don’t listen even after repeated warnings, talk to them in a loving yet stern manner. Make them understand what you are trying to convey.

4. Provide options

Giving your child options is another way to avoid beating. For example, if your child is playing with food on the dinning table, ask her to eat her food quietly or leave the table. If your child still does not stop, let your child move out and come back only when she is willing to eat.

5. Use reasonable consequence

It is very important for the child to take up responsibilities. When your kid has done something wrong give him/her time to realize their responsibilities and set things right. Unreasonable punishment leads to hatred.

6. Work out alternatives

Make your child realize how important it is to keep up a word. For example if your child has given you a word to do something and fails to do so don’t punish him. Instead ask him to suggest an alternative for not keeping up the word.

7. Keep away from arguments

Children often answer back to their parents, which triggers their anger and they end up slapping. In order to avoid such situations, talk to your child only after both of you have calmed down. Never walk out of the situation in anger; it causes a very bad impact.

8. Tell your children beforehand

A child’s temper tantrum can easily trigger a parent’s anger. Children often feel disappointed when they are not informed about things. So, always tell them things before hand so that they have time to accomplish any given task.

Aggression takes its toll on children and leaves them violent. Beating or slapping your child will badly affect your child’s self esteem and confidence. So, avoid beating your child and use effective ways to teach them

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