How Should Parents Deal With Tantrums
Children are fun to be with. They loved to be petted and loved. They throw tantrums to seek attention. Sometimes they throw tantrums as a way of expressing anger and frustration.
You need to understand as to why your child is resorting to such behavior. Have you been spending less time with your child lately? Has the child wanted to tell you something lately? Is the child angry about something? These are the questions you need to ask you’re self.
Sometimes the child throws tantrums just to gain something which you think is not necessary for the child. Do not give in if you know you are right. Also, at such times do not let the child manipulate your behavior. At such times do not punish your child. Stay calm and ignore such behavior as much as possible.
Trying to stop the tantrum by giving in to the child’s demands is even worse. This is the way to teach a child to use tantrums for manipulation, and will cause the behavior to continue indefinitely, even into adulthood.
Teaching the child alternatives to tantrums
If you realize that there indeed is something that is troubling your child spend some time with him/her and make her feel loved and important. Children open up easily when showered with love. Explain to the child that he/she is the center of your world and that you would never ever leave them for anything in the world.
Teach the child to express out his/her feelings. Concentrate on the tantrum itself, explaining to the child that the behavior isn’t appropriate. Then teach her what she should do instead when he/she feels angry. This works with children of any age, even toddlers. Your toddler will understand you.
Toddlers understand far more than they are able to express. Very often we think that a child will not understand our explanations. Unfortunately this is where we go wrong.Our child when spoken to in the right way understands us better than any other elder or mature person. The bond with your child matters the most here.
Explain to your child that tantrums are not proper behavior. Make sure that you are clear that the tantrum is bad, not the child. And don’t worry about using big words such as appropriate. If you use big words with a child, the child will learn big words. If you use only little words, your child will learn only little words.
Teach Your Child How To Deal with Tantrums
Teach your child to deal with tantrums. Acknowledge the child’s emotions.This is how you speak with your child- I know you felt angry. When you are angry, what you do is say, â€˜I’m angry!’ Can you say that? Have the child repeat the phrase after you.
Next review what you have said. What are you going to say next time you’re angry? Get her to repeat the phrase, I’m angry! Then say, Next time you’re angry, are you going to scream? The child will probably say or indicate no. Next time you’re angry, are you going to throw things? Next time you’re angry, are you going to kick? End up with, Tell me again what you’re going to do next time you’re angry.
You will have to repeat this discussion many, many times. It takes a long time for a child to learn how to control a temper tantrum.
Teaching your child to deal with his/her emotions is the best thing you can do to yourself as well as your child.