Some Useful Tips to Handle Sibling Rivalry
The term sibling refers to children who are related and living in the same family. Sibling rivalry has existed as long as families. There may be several reasons why sibling rivalry happens. Siblings don’t choose the family they are born into, don’t choose each other. They may be of different sex, are probably of different age and temperament, and. worst of all, they have to share the one person or the two people they most want for themselves: their parents.Through tact and some simple tips, parents can handle sibling rivalry.
Make friends before birth:
Get your older child acquainted with the new baby before birth. Show her pictures of a baby growing in mommy’s belly. Let her pat the baby beneath the bulge, talk to baby, and feel baby kick.
Make the older sibling feel important:
Give your child a job in the family organization. To pull the child out of the “I want to be a baby, too” belief, play up her importance to you, personally and practically. Give her a job title, such as “mommy’s helper.”
Promote empathy Help your children learn how to get behind the eyes of another person and think first how their behavior is going to affect that other person. We want our children to think through what they’re about to do. A lack of empathy is the hallmark of sociopathic relationships between adult siblings.
Don’t make comparisons:
Each child feels he is unique and rightly so-he is unique, and he resents being evaluated only in relation to someone else. Instead of comparison, each child in the family should be given his own goals and levels of expectation that relate only to him.
Don’t dismiss your children’s resentment:
Contrary to what many people think, anger is not something we should try to avoid at all costs. It’s an entirely normal part of being human, and it’s certainly normal for siblings to get furious with one another. This is the time to sit down, acknowledge the anger and talk it through.