Comments on: Teach Your Kids Not to be Bossy http://parenting.ygoy.com/2008/02/05/teach-your-kids-not-to-be-bossy/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 12:48:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: mama wolf http://parenting.ygoy.com/2008/02/05/teach-your-kids-not-to-be-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-10128 mama wolf Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:09:37 +0000 http://parenting.ygoy.com/2008/02/05/teach-your-kids-not-to-be-bossy/#comment-10128 Dont point out so many negatives, its a goo start but you have to teach a child how to act positive. telling them every five seconds 'your being bossy' is onyl highlighting the bad. Children do the thing on their mind 'bossy', as you have just said this to them, i got my daughter to practice saying 'you pick the game' etc at home, so she would have those words on her mind at school too. You have to give your child the 'tools' they need, simply pointing out how they are getting it wrong doesn't help. And do be sympathetic, in all likely hood they have learned to be bossy from a bossy parent. YOU. So get mad at yourself and work on getting it right. DON'T blame your child and tell yourself it's their fault they have no friends, the whole point of calling yourself a mum or dad is because you have the responcibility and as such take responcibility and get motivated. Also, have fun, make a big poster 'nice things i can say to my friends' make a photo album 'my firneds' have a tea party and invite everyone over so you can see how your child talks to friends and if they are improving, make a necklace with a symbol designed by your child that means 'i share with my friends' make friendship bracelets and talk about giving not just recieving from our friends. Get 'window crayons' if you have windows or a sliding door and challenge your child to introduce themselves to one new friend a day or week, role play at home 'hi my name is... what's your name... do you want to play a game... how about you choose the game?' then write the new friends name on the window and watch the artwork grow (these crayons rub of with a dry cloth) Dont send your child to school with one toy that they can't share or that they are worried will get broken etc, balls, skipping ropes, etc encourage group play more than A car or A doll or even three cars, what if there are four kids who want to play? Do pack a backup activity in their bag ie ' it's ok if no one wants to play with you today, i've packed your sticker activity book and if you need to you can sit and do that.' DONT stop thinking of great ways to teach your child that school and his peers are people just like him/her and we all need to learn. HAVE FUN, if your frowning your not doing it right. ASK YOURSELF mums and dads, is what i'm going to say going to help? IF IT"S NOT CONSTUCTIVE THEN ZIP IT, you don't need to say it if it's not constrictive. Its the adults version of 'if you cant say something nice don't say anything at all' Dont point out so many negatives, its a goo start but you have to teach a child how to act positive. telling them every five seconds ‘your being bossy’ is onyl highlighting the bad. Children do the thing on their mind ‘bossy’, as you have just said this to them, i got my daughter to practice saying ‘you pick the game’ etc at home, so she would have those words on her mind at school too. You have to give your child the ‘tools’ they need, simply pointing out how they are getting it wrong doesn’t help. And do be sympathetic, in all likely hood they have learned to be bossy from a bossy parent. YOU. So get mad at yourself and work on getting it right. DON’T blame your child and tell yourself it’s their fault they have no friends, the whole point of calling yourself a mum or dad is because you have the responcibility and as such take responcibility and get motivated. Also, have fun, make a big poster ‘nice things i can say to my friends’ make a photo album ‘my firneds’ have a tea party and invite everyone over so you can see how your child talks to friends and if they are improving, make a necklace with a symbol designed by your child that means ‘i share with my friends’ make friendship bracelets and talk about giving not just recieving from our friends. Get ‘window crayons’ if you have windows or a sliding door and challenge your child to introduce themselves to one new friend a day or week, role play at home ‘hi my name is… what’s your name… do you want to play a game… how about you choose the game?’ then write the new friends name on the window and watch the artwork grow (these crayons rub of with a dry cloth) Dont send your child to school with one toy that they can’t share or that they are worried will get broken etc, balls, skipping ropes, etc encourage group play more than A car or A doll or even three cars, what if there are four kids who want to play? Do pack a backup activity in their bag ie ‘ it’s ok if no one wants to play with you today, i’ve packed your sticker activity book and if you need to you can sit and do that.’ DONT stop thinking of great ways to teach your child that school and his peers are people just like him/her and we all need to learn.
HAVE FUN, if your frowning your not doing it right.
ASK YOURSELF mums and dads, is what i’m going to say going to help?

IF IT”S NOT CONSTUCTIVE THEN ZIP IT, you don’t need to say it if it’s not constrictive. Its the adults version of ‘if you cant say something nice don’t say anything at all’

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