Posted on March 5, 2008 in Latest News
Some children are naturally talkative, bubbly and extrovert, while others are shy and timid. They talk only to those very close to them and sometimes don’t even tell their names to their parents’ close friends when they ask them!
Shy children can sometimes make their parents exasperating, since childhood is certainly a time when children can make the most of their budding talents and even show off innocently. But criticizing kids for being shy can only make matters worse. Parents should take utmost care in what they tell their children. Some tips given below might help:
Identify the nature of shyness: Children either are timid in all they do or exhibit shyness in only certain activities required from them. For example kids may be very active among peers in play, but may be uncomfortable with adults, teachers or while doing a stage presentation. There are a number of conditions that masquerade as, or can lead to, shyness—many of which require professional attention. Some children struggle with non–verbal learning disabilities or Asperger’s Syndrome which interfere with their ability to read social cues and understand how to enter and exit play or answer questions at an appropriate level. Finding the root cause will help to decide what is to be done.
Do not compare: This is the first tip in parenting. Comparing your shy kid with their extrovert friends could lead to inferiority complex in your child. This is better avoided at an early stage.
Teach them etiquette: Teach your kids how to behave to guests and elders. For instance, politeness words like ‘excuse me’, ‘I am sorry’, ‘thank you’, ‘how do you do’ etc. Make it a point your child follows these. This is a big step toward removing shyness since this is basic courtesy and they know they have to do it. This will later on pave way to a better and longer conversation.
Give mock presentations: Gather your close friends and neighbours and his/her friends everyone of whom your child knows and ask him to tell a story, sing etc in your house. Give extra points for a good job. This will help get over shyness. Also take tour child to watch other children perform on stage, but do not say, “look how well he does it!”. Let your child comment first.
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March 5th, 2008 at 5:57 pm
im not a parent at all but i am a student at an high school but this doesnt tell me much how to get over shyness or to tell anyways to not to be shy.or tips to be convetable when people stare at you ..