Tips for Parents to Eliminate Children’s Shyness
Some children are naturally talkative, bubbly and extrovert, while others are shy and timid. They only talk to those very close to them and sometimes won’t even say their names to their parents’ close friends when they ask them!
Shy children can sometimes make their parents exasperated, since childhood is a time when children should make the most of their budding talents and even show off innocently. But criticizing kids for being shy will only make matters worse. Parents should take the utmost care in what they say to their children. Some tips given below might help:
Identify the nature of the shyness:
Children are either timid in all they do or exhibit shyness only in certain situations or during certain activities. For example, kids may be very active among peers when playing, but may be uncomfortable with adults, teachers or while doing a stage presentation. There are a number of conditions that masquerade as, or can lead to, shyness—many of which require professional attention. Some children struggle with non–verbal learning disabilities or Asperger’s Syndrome which interfere with their ability to read social cues and understand how to enter and exit play or answer questions at an appropriate level. Finding the root cause will help to decide what is to be done.
Do not compare:
This is the first tip in parenting. Comparing your shy kid with their extrovert friends could lead to an inferiority complex in your child. This is best avoided at an early stage.
Teach them etiquette:
Teach your kids how to behave towards guests and elders. For instance, politeness like saying ‘excuse me’, ‘I am sorry’, ˜thank you’, ˜how do you do’ etc. Make it a point that your child follows these rules. This is a big step toward removing shyness since this is basic courtesy and they know they have to do it. This will pave the way to better and longer conversations.
Hold mock presentations:
Gather your close friends and neighbours and everyone your child knows and ask him or her to tell a story, sing a song or perform in your house. Give extra points for a good job. This will help overcome shyness. Also take your child to watch other children perform on stage, but do not say things like, look how well he does it! . Let your child comment first.