Posted on March 12, 2008 in Latest News
Parents often pamper their children without realizing it. They are over-zealous and would like to provide them with everything that is possible. If it is their only child, then they pamper the child more. They do not want the child to be deprived of anything. But, they fail to realize that by pampering them, they are causing much damage to them. Such children have personality problems as they are used to getting their own way in matters. Parents need to realize when they are pampering a child.
Tips to Identify Pampered Child Syndrome
- A child may not be willing to accept refusal. He or she may cry or throw a tantrum, if what is desired is not received
- A pampered child may not listen to parents also. Parents in their eagerness to provide the best for the child may compromise on authority. They may fail to exercise authority and deny their child certain things, which are not feasible. The child takes the parents for granted
- Even in other relationships, the pampered child has adjustment problems. Among friends, the child may expect things to go in his or her favor
- It is not necessary that a pampered child will love her parents. In teens, the child may hold the parents responsible for her pampered behavior and dislike them for that
- Quite a few pampered children may want to enjoy the rights of adults, but may not like to take on responsibilities of an adult
- A pampered child tends to take his or her parents for granted. He or she feels that parents can provide anything on this earth and may make demands that parents cannot meet
- Parents do not rebuke a pampered child and this can spoil the child. The child may not realize his or her limits
- A pampered child, at times, will make demands, which may override other family commitments. The child may expect, for example, the parent to buy something, even if the family budget does not permit to do so
- There is no end to a pampered child’s demands. Sometimes, parents themselves find it difficult to meet, although, they try to do so
- A pampered child can also face psychological problems. He or she may find it difficult to accept setbacks and failures. Hardships may not be palatable. The child may find it difficult to adjust to other environments which may not be as comfortable as the parental home
Parents may have the best of intentions in pampering a child, but fail to realize that they are causing much damage. A child should get adjusted to denials as well. He or she should not feel that things are easy to come by. Hardships should also be experienced for overall healthy growth of the child.
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June 3rd, 2008 at 7:12 pm
In a nice way I take exception to the title of the book. It should have been named ‘Pampered Hostage’. These kids take the wrap for parents who, lacking fulfillment of their own childhood, suck the I.D. out of the baby and leave them empty and angry. Then they try to stuff the hole they leave with items of unful-fillment, toys, clothes, permission to do ‘anything’, except, the unspoken command, to do what you must to keep the hostage-taker (parent) happy, with whatever absurd trifling that skips across the brain of the thief (parent). Kind of like the fat lady who rubbed the kitty till it finally died and then picking up the empty carcass and wrapping it around her neck thinking it will give her warmth. Wrong!! The kitty who could have offered her love and warmth had been sucked dry. All that was left was her only defense, the hatred she felt for her warden. I’m no professional. I’ve just seen a lot of this and thats my opinion. I could be wrong.