Parenting

Being An Alcoholic Addicted Parent

Children living with alcoholic parents are most likely to become alcohol addicts when they grow up into adults. Parenting a child single handedly with your spouse being a alcohol addict can be very traumatizing.

Here are some tips on how you can lovingly help out your child deal with an alcoholic mother/father.

Do Not Try To Protect The Child:

The more you try and protect the child from what’s happening around him/her the more he/she will be confused. Do not underestimate the way a child thinks. A child is far more capable of understanding things. When constantly lied to about the alcoholic parents behavior, the child may receive conflicting messages. For e.g. If the father of the child is alcoholic and constantly keeps screaming and shouting at the child, the mother shouldn’t pacify the child saying that the father cares for the child very much and expresses his love through his shouting and screaming. Instead the mother should openly discuss the father’s problem with the child and explain why their father behaves in this manner.

Send Them For A Holiday Near Loved Ones:

If the atmosphere at home is a very stressed and is a conflict ridden one, where you and your alcoholic addicted spouse are constantly fighting, then make sure you send the child away to some place where he/she receives lot of love. A holiday at grand ma’s place or an outing with cousins can be a refreshing change to the child.

Explain To Your Alcoholic Spouse About The Consequences Of Their Behavior:

Very clearly explain to your spouse about the negative consequences of their behavior on your child. Explain to them about how your child is influenced and how harmful it is for them.

Help your Child Express:

Your child may be very confused about what is happening to them, so explain things to them. Help them express out their confusions to a counselor or confidant. Help them understand that they are not the only ones suffering from this kind of problem and that it can be dealt with.

Keep these points in mind and help your child cope up with what’s happening to him/her.

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