Parenting

6 Discipline Mistakes Parents Make

Many parents have the knack of raising their children in a disciplined manner. But, there are other parents who fail to understand their children. These parents lack the art of disciplining, guiding, and understanding their kids. Following are a few ways for parents to improve their communication and discipline skills.

Yelling

Parents should avoid yelling too frequently, although it may seem difficult not to raise their voices when annoyed. If a child hears your raised voice frequently, they will get used to it and the yelling will hardly have an impact. As a result, a child’s behavior does not improve and may even get worse with time. The solution is to calm down and find more effective ways to convey the intended message to your child.

Nagging

Nagging is a common problem for parents who are a little lenient. Such parents avoid yelling, but constantly nag about things to be done in a certain manner. If you are not getting your child’s complete attention, show a negative consequence by telling them what it will be instead of constantly repeating yourself.

Lecturing

Lecturing is quite useless as children have a short attention span. Parents should rather ask questions like, “Why is your homework not complete?”  Or, “Is there something that is not clear to you?” Or, “How would you feel if someone did that to you?”

Taking Your Anger out on the Kids

In a fit of anger, you may say things that you may not mean, but these things get embedded in a child’s mind. As a result, children get confused and their self esteem is hurt. If you are angry and cannot immediately get away from the situation, take a few moments to silently breathe and reflect on the situation. Think about your expectations of them and the most effective way for them to understand your expectations. Then try again to communicate those expectations in a calm manner. Do not show that you lack control or they will feel misguided and confused.

Imposing Guilt

Parents coming from a dysfunctional family often blame their children for their situations. For example, saying things like, “Why do you make your mother cry?” or “I have sacrificed so much for you and this is what you do” will only create a guilt complex in the child. As a result, the child starts accepting blame for all of the problems and carries the guild with them for life. End the pattern of dysfunction by understanding that your child never wanted you to be stressed or uncomfortable. They are simply learning and need guidance.

If you recognize any of the above discipline mistakes, try to become more aware of them so that you can change your habits and get the best out of your children.

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