Parenting

5 Mistakes Parents Make

Parenting a child in a proper manner is very important. All parents make mistakes while raising their children. These are small mistakes that parents tend to overlook, but later it affects the child’s physical and mental development. Below are five parenting mistakes to avoid.

1.    Losing Your Temper-

No parent is perfect in raising a child, but the need to control tempers and learning to tackle situations in  different and sometimes creative ways is extremely important.  It is often hard not to lose it, especially when a child is being difficult or has broken something of value. When this happens, a child may not understand the outburst beyond “Oops, Mom is really upset.” However, when everyone has calmed down and taken a time out, a parent should make sure that they apologize to the child for the outburst and talk through the reason for the outburst.  .

2.    Not Talking the Important Stuff-

Children are always curious and want to learn. They will ask questions that parents may not be prepared to answer and may even be embarrassing in public. Many parents think that it is okay to tell a child everything, but a child only needs an easy answer to their questions. General rules for embarrassing questions are:  the younger the child, the less the technical information is needed. The older the child, the more information they can handle. And finally, do not lie to a child, no matter how embarrassing the conversation.

3.    Not Building a Child’s Personality-

Many parents do too much for their children. This can be detrimental to a child’s development. When a child does not have the chance to make decisions, whether they are good ones or bad ones, critical thinking and social skills become lacking. Children will become and remain dependent on parents and teachers and peers to tell them how to think and what to do. Children need to figure out what toys to play with or buy, manage their own money, decide what clothes to wear or buy, and what sports or extracurricular activity to pursue, among many other decisions. All this is essential in development, but the most essential tool a child needs in making their own decision is guidance from parents. Without guidance, all the decision making a child makes is not going to teach them anything.

4.     Becoming a Doormat-

Most parents think that being lenient is a better way of raising a child, which is not true. Parents should learn the line on which discipline and leniency lie. There is a time to be lenient on a child and a time to discipline. If a child wants a particular box of cereal and runs to grab it before asking then perhaps this is a time of leniency. However, if a child will not obey at the park, then this is a time for discipline. All children want boundaries, but they will quickly take the chance to walk over a doormat and leave muddy footprints that leave parents weary and flustered.

5.    Using Scare Tactics-

If a child acts stubborn, parents tend to use scare tactics. For example, if a child is told, “if you don’t finish your food, the monsters under the bed will get you”, this certainly scares a child as well as damages his/her confidence. They may really believe statements like this. Later, a parent may feel guilty for doing it. Parents should steer clear of nonsense scare tactics.  Instead, use “scare” tactics (real information and stories) for explaining what could happen if a child runs out in front of a car or other serious incidents.

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