Parenting Advice for The First Heartbreak
Coping with a heartbreak is very difficult whether you are an adult or a teenager.
Though many people can cope well with the strong emotions that come with that first heartbreak, there are some teenagers who can be devastated.
Often adults view first love as a crush or puppy love and don’t take it seriously but it is very serious to the teens who are involved. They are waking up for the first time to what a strong attraction feels like and can react very strongly when it is over. Parents need to show understanding and patience at this time.
Parenting Advice for the First Heartbreak
The best thing you can do as a parent is let your child know you are there to talk if they need you and give them the space to grieve. Most teens will come out of this state in their own time. If you think there is more to your child’s behavior than normal grieving, keep a very close eye on your child. Some teens are so emotional they can harm themselves either through drug use, cutting themselves or even attempting suicide. Parents should watch out for signs like:
If your teen avoids friends and spends most of his/her time alone after a breakup there may be a problem. Also. if you notice extreme moodiness look into it further..
Feeling Sad When Apart:
Especially if your teen has spent a lot of time with their boyfriend or girlfriend, when they break up, all of a sudden they will have time on their hands to brood and miss the other person. You may notice your child crying at odd times, or sleeping a lot. These are normal symptoms of a breakup but if they last too long, be concerned.
Constantly Chatting on the Internet or the Telephone:
If your teen is always busy on the Internet or telephone it may be a sign they are trying to replace their lost boyfriend or girlfriend. There are many people with fake ids on the internet particularly who may try to manipulate children. Make sure your child is aware of the dangers involved and restrict their internet use
A Parents Responsibilities
- Talk about relationships with your teen. Help them to see the bigger picture. Paint a positive picture of the future for them when they will meet other people. Explain why you think getting into too serious a relationship too young can be a problem
- Monitor your teen’s telephone and Internet usage to be sure your teen isn’t visiting the wrong sites or talking to a person unknown to you for hours.
- Help your teen to continue to focus on their studies.
- Most important is to monitor your teen’s behavior, activities and mood at this time to make sure he/she doesn’t slide into a more negative state than normal.