Co-Parenting after Divorce
A child who has watched his parents get divorced, suffer from many things; anger, insecurity, guilt, loss of trust, and perhaps many other issues. Children may live with these issues most of their lives. While the effects of divorce will undoubtedly make an impact on the children, parents who wish to co-parent must do so with great cooperation. This may be difficult, but research shows that children are more resilient when parents can learn to get along with each other. Below are some tips to help make co-parenting work.
One of the most important things is how discussions about ex-partners go when the children are present. Never criticize or complain about the parent in front of the children. This is their mother or father, whom they love. Doing this causes the children to feel they must take sides. This will tear children apart inside.
The second thing is to be flexible and understanding when things do not go according to plan. Schedules are ruined for the day, deadlines are imminent, and sometimes traffic is just horrible. Should changes need to be made, then make sure to get it done without placing the child in the middle. This becomes very stressful for the child.
The final tip is about having help from an expert or a counselor. Get a plan for both homes. Children and parents will have brand new lives and will need to learn to cope with the situations and the daily grind that is inevitable.
A marriage coming to an end does not mean that being a parent comes to an end as well. Duty to the children is still imperative, just as cooperation in co-parenting is.