Building Confidence in Children

All that damages confidence in children are: telling them that you don’t want them, you wished they were not born, neglecting them, ridiculing or teasing them, beating them etc.
So do not question their competence or undermine their ability to do things for themselves. If you’re worried, keep an eye on him, but don’t interfere. Do not compare him to other children good or bad.

Be Encouraging

Help your teens to feel good about themselves, their changing bodies and emotions. Respect their need for privacy and for their own space. Your teens wil have their own thinking so be prepared to be tested. They need to know your thoughts and reactions. Be open to discussion about sexual orientation. A teen who is struggling alone with sexual orientation and identity is at high risk for depression and suicide. Help your teens obtain credible information and learn how to take care of their sexual health needs.

Help your teens know their responsibilities

like they should learn how to protect themselves against current trends such as bullying, drinks being spiked, date rape, and sexual harassment.

Talk to your Teens

Share your ideas by ask teens about their opinions about music lyrics, commercials, movies, and the latest sitcoms. Avoid putting down the pop culture etc. Counter the distorted view about sexuality and relationships in the media by informing them of the truth.

Maintaining your child’s confidence

It’s still vitally important for you to keep working at building your child’s confidence throughout these years, especially as school life and friends may give it a sideways knock.

It is possible to achieve a suitable level of assertiveness through certain simple methods. Tell your kids to read inspirational literature or casettes.

Ask your child to recite the nursery rhyme he learnt in school that day or tell a story. This will develop his social skills and he will be rid of stage fear and fear of public speaking.

Give positive feedback as your child measures his/her worth by what you think of her. Reassure your child that it’s OK to make mistakes and that it’s all part of growing up. Listen and give positive prompts to encourage your child to continue.

Criticize Behavior

Respect your child’s interests, even if they don’t inmterest you. Take a genuine interest in your child’s friends, and what’s happening at school, and comment to show you’re listening.
Accept any fears your child expresses even if they seem trivial to you. You need to do things to dispel his fear.

Succeeding boosts confidence, and sometimes your child like all of us wil learn by his/her mistakes. Focus on your child’s successes.

Children copy adults so be careful with all that you say about yourself as putting yourself down can damage your child’s self-esteem.

The Dos in Building Confidence

A little thing like establishing routine and making the home environment as predictable as possible goes a long way towards making your child feel secure.

Remember to keep activities like watching television and playing computer games to a minimum, as these activities do not encourage the development of social skills like conversational skills, sharing and compromise.

Ask your child to help you like buying grocery etc. This will make him feel important and competent. If he is working on something new, give him plenty of support and make him feel that you’re confident that he will succeed.

Lastly give him/her plenty of encouragement.