How to Deal with A Nagging Child

I want the toy, otherwise I won’t eat my supper is a very common statement that can be heard in shops, malls, and in every household. Children often nag and it tends to continue if it gets him what he wants. Nagging is nothing but a weapon for the children to get their parents succumb to their demands.

Why do Children Nag:

Nagging as a tool of pressurizing parents:

Children often nag because they find it very effective in getting what they want. A continuous demand for a desired thing—a toy or a video game—is often bothersome. For the parents it is often exasperating and they generally give in only to get the child off their back. It gives an impression to the child that nagging is very effective in the way of getting something from its parents. So, the more a parent propitiates a child the more its nagging behavior worsens. Pre-teenage children adopts nagging habit as obtaining new things makes them important to their peers.

Nagging Due to Psychological Problems:

Children often try to catch the attention of their parents by nagging. Some of the reasons of nagging is their loneliness or being least cared for. These kind of psychological problems are very common with children. The only way for them to express their discomfort is through nagging.

How to Tackle a Nagging Child:

In order to tackle a nagging child a parent should be very observant. He/she should try to realize the problem of the child. Once the root of the problem is realized it won’t be very difficult to get the child rid of his nagging habits. Following are certain tips to deal with a nagging child.

  • If the child’s nagging subsides when cared for, the reason is his/her loneliness. Give your child enough time to ward off his loneliness.
  • The reason for nagging may also be jealousy of being less cared for than her sibling. In that case give equal importance to both the children. Make her feel as important as any other member of the family.
  • If the nagging is only for obtaining some object, do not give in easily. It will give him the sense that he can get whatever he nags for.
  • Talk to your child and try to explain the difficulties in obtaining the object.
  • If you say no to her demand, stick to that. Parents often give in only because the nagging gets too bothersome for them. But this reinforces the nagging as the child realizes that by nagging she can win over her parents sooner or later. Therefore, by being firm you can make her realize that nagging is not the only way to ask for something.
  • Say a big No to your child’s nagging demand and tell him softly that his nagging might come in the way of his more possible benefit. For example, if you keep on demanding for a cycle now you will lose the opportunity to go to the movie next Sunday.

A nagging child must realize that nagging does not help him getting anything. He should realize that nagging exasperates parents and this kind of behavior is not expected from him. Once a child realizes that his parents are not giving in to his demands his nagging will be subsided. However, parents should be careful about the psychological reasons of nagging. In those cases the matter should be handled with caution.