How to Discipline your Child

Disciplining children is most effective when parents practice all that they instruct their children to do. Disciplining a child will vary from age-group to age-group. Earlier you start better it is.

Age group of 0-2

Children of the 0-2  age-group should not be beaten. If the child is very naughty make facial expressions like you are sad or getting angry or stop talking for a minute or two. This will send home the message that his/her behavior is not appreciated.

Age group of 3-5

Children of the 3-5 age group can be shouted at in extreme cases. Interestingly children of these groups don’t understand explanations. Tell them what you are going to do if his or her behavior is inappropriate. This will instill a fear in them regarding their inappropriate activities. But not all kids understand what their parents want them to do. Sometimes you may shout at them but don’t do that repetitively as they will defy you if you shout and scream for every bit of thing.

Age group of 6-9

Children of the 6-9 age group will understand, if you explain them what they should not do and why they should not do. Advise them what is expected of them and not all children are obedient so you may need to scold or spank your child sometimes. But these should be in mild manner. You need to be kind to them after you scold or beat them. This assures them of their parents’ love and they also come to understand that it is their wrong behavior, which invited the beating.


Children are human beings and don’t think that your children will learn by sparing the rod. But beating the children for small mistakes will make children defiant or scared of their parents. This would create a distant between parents and children. As the next stage is the adolescent stage, extreme physical punishment may make the child rebellious.

This is the time when parents need to be kind and strict as well. Children should recognize both the good and bad behavior in the children. But parents should restrain from beating their children because it may cause severe harm to the children specially if the children is hit on the wrong place.

The parents’ need to practice certain things, like, there should be consistency in their nature. They should not express mood swings when it comes to interacting with children. You should do what you mean. If you say you will reward your kid for his achievements do so. If you say you will punish him for delinquent behavior do so. But punishments should not disproportionate with the mistakes committed.

Children who are adolescent are the most sensitive set. This is the stage of transition from childhood to adolescent. This is the stage for test of patience for the parents. Parents have to be very patient and will be required to devote a lot of time for their children. Parents themselves need to be very disciplined at this age because adolescents are likely to be very clumsy and careless. You need to train them through your model behavior.


Then comes teenage when you really have to be a friend, a guide and finally a parent to your children. They will fall back on you for advices. The relationship with your teens will depend on how you have dealt with them earlier and how you carry yourself.