Posted on June 30, 2007 in Latest News
Adopting a child is considered as an act of great altruism. Childless couples often resort to adoption to fill the vacuum in their lives that results when they fail to have children of their own. Adopted parents are totally in the dark about the past history of their adopted child but it does not deter them from making the child a part of their own family. Adopted parenting is all about love and care and looking after a child who is a total outsider.
There are many dreadful stories and myths associated with adopted children and the foremost among them is that they are usually troubled. However it is completely untrue that adopted children have more troubles in comparison to children obtained by birth. Adopted parenting is more about attachment, affection and faith than about biology. In reality a number of parents who adopt a child may succeed a great deal more in bringing up their child in contrast to parents who have biological children. This is on account of the fact that the adopted parents have made a choice to fill their life with an adopted child which is not at all times the case with biological families. In addition, biological parents may have children for the erroneous grounds. They may have children to carry on the family name or to gratify members of the family.
An adoptive couple must undergo a procedure and be checked to ascertain if they will be decent parents. This can lead to dejection among numerous adoptive parents since their entire life is checked to ascertain if they will be permitted to adopt a child.
Challenges
Adopted parenting entails that the child be given adequate attention to make him or understand about his or her importance in the family. Often it has been found that parents go overboard in trying to meet the demands of an adopted child to negate social criticism. However this should not be pursued since a normal healthy relationship is the only thing that parents should emphasise while dealing with their adopted son or daughter.
Both the mother and the father have crucial roles to play in the development of an adopted child. A mother should act in a manner as if the adopted child is her own. The parents should make all possible effort to educate the child in the best possible manner and pay proper attention to his or her health.
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July 14th, 2007 at 12:22 pm
The writer of this piece states ‘Adopted parenting is all about love and care and looking after a child who is a total outsider.’ I wonder what this total outsider concept is, as opposed to an insider (meaning the biological product of an union between your own egg and your partner’s sperm?). How much of an advantage does the biological parent actually have in terms of access to the biological child’s mind, nature or congenital tendencies, as opposed to the adoptive parent vis-a-vis their adopted child? The only thing we know for sure with a biological child is a medical history of the biological parents. Otherwise — aren’t we all groping in the dark and trying to come up with the best way to shape the mind and bodies entrusted in our care by freak strokes of fate?
August 4th, 2007 at 11:32 am
This post is riddled with antiquated falsehoods about adoption. The language itself — such as “total outsider,” “not the real of the parents,” “have to regard the child as their own,” and “act in a manner as if the child is her own,” — perpetuates adoption stigma. Parents who adopt don’t “act like” the child is their own. The child IS their own. Parenting is not an act, whether the family was created through biology or adoption. Adoption is also about the entire family, not the “adopted child.” Adoption is not “an act of great altruism.” It is family building.