Posted on February 5, 2008 in Latest News
Most children are attention seekers and want to be constantly in the limelight, but some try to grab it the wrong way. To get things done the way they favour, these little ones simply boss their peers. Many a time they get away with it, since kids who are by nature timid fall as victims to such child bullies. However, bossy children soon become unpopular among their fellow-mates. Since bossing happens mostly at school or while at play with fellows, parents must make sure they catch their kids on time. Mind you, such kids often boss even their parents. So, nip it in the bud.
How to make them rid of bossiness
- Supervise his social activities by joining a small play group with a few other children and their parents.
- If he displays bossiness, point this out subtly by whispering in his ear. Do not make a scene front of the other kids.
Play non-competitive games at home and encourage him to take part in team sports.
- Do not comply with your child if he orders you. He has to understand that he is nobody’s boss, especially not yours.
- If your child is left out by other children, do not be too sympathetic as in all likelihood his bossy behaviour is the culprit. Instead, try to help him see what aspect of his behaviour could have put them off.
- Compliment him whenever he lets other kids put in their ideas or shares his toys with them.
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June 25th, 2009 at 1:09 am
Dont point out so many negatives, its a goo start but you have to teach a child how to act positive. telling them every five seconds ‘your being bossy’ is onyl highlighting the bad. Children do the thing on their mind ‘bossy’, as you have just said this to them, i got my daughter to practice saying ‘you pick the game’ etc at home, so she would have those words on her mind at school too. You have to give your child the ‘tools’ they need, simply pointing out how they are getting it wrong doesn’t help. And do be sympathetic, in all likely hood they have learned to be bossy from a bossy parent. YOU. So get mad at yourself and work on getting it right. DON’T blame your child and tell yourself it’s their fault they have no friends, the whole point of calling yourself a mum or dad is because you have the responcibility and as such take responcibility and get motivated. Also, have fun, make a big poster ‘nice things i can say to my friends’ make a photo album ‘my firneds’ have a tea party and invite everyone over so you can see how your child talks to friends and if they are improving, make a necklace with a symbol designed by your child that means ‘i share with my friends’ make friendship bracelets and talk about giving not just recieving from our friends. Get ‘window crayons’ if you have windows or a sliding door and challenge your child to introduce themselves to one new friend a day or week, role play at home ‘hi my name is… what’s your name… do you want to play a game… how about you choose the game?’ then write the new friends name on the window and watch the artwork grow (these crayons rub of with a dry cloth) Dont send your child to school with one toy that they can’t share or that they are worried will get broken etc, balls, skipping ropes, etc encourage group play more than A car or A doll or even three cars, what if there are four kids who want to play? Do pack a backup activity in their bag ie ‘ it’s ok if no one wants to play with you today, i’ve packed your sticker activity book and if you need to you can sit and do that.’ DONT stop thinking of great ways to teach your child that school and his peers are people just like him/her and we all need to learn.
HAVE FUN, if your frowning your not doing it right.
ASK YOURSELF mums and dads, is what i’m going to say going to help?
IF IT”S NOT CONSTUCTIVE THEN ZIP IT, you don’t need to say it if it’s not constrictive. Its the adults version of ‘if you cant say something nice don’t say anything at all’