Teen Behavior Problems

All parents expect their children to behave in a particular manner and there are so many phases in a human being’s life that it is difficult for parents to recognize the differences between variations in normal behavior and true adolescent behavior problems. Development can be uneven because of one’s intellectual level and inherent qualities and surrounding environment. Every family has its own values, and expectations so normal teen behavior is determined by the family, situation and time.

To interpret, accept and adapt to your teen’s behavior you need to understand your adolescent first. Frequently, parents over-interpret or over-react to a minor, normal short-term change in the teen behavior. At the other extreme, parents may ignore or downplay a serious problem. If you suspect your child or teen has a behavior disorder, please seek a professional opinion.

Children with behavior disorder are stubborn; test limits and push boundaries; easily annoyed; lose their temper; argue with adults; refuse to comply with rules and directions; blame others for their mistakes. Problem behaviors cause significant difficulties with family and friends. Sometimes, risk factors for teen behavior problems include: conflict with family members, alcohol and drug abuse, failure in examinations and finally peer rejection.

The following interventions can be used to inculcate responsible behavior in defiant children

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Listening

Listening to your adolescent promotes communication between you and your kids.

Talking about ethics

Parents need to talk to their children about what is right and wrong and about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

Being consistent

There will be times when adolescents won’t like what you say or will act as though they don’t like you. It’s important to resist the urge to win their favor or try too hard to please them.

Avoiding arguments

Arguing only fuels hostility and it doesn’t get you heard. Accept the fact that either of you have the right to disagree.

Keep an eye on your child to protect him from bullying

If there is a bully around and is picking on your tell your not to retaliate against the bully. If you kid feels insecured ask him to go immediately to a teacher, principal, or other nearby adult.
Encourage your child to form strong friendships and participate in positive social groups that meet his or her interests. Positive social activities help in developing your child’s hidden talents and building his or her self-confidence.

If your kid is bullied continuously and it is harming your child’s mental health, intervene by talking to the teacher, school counselor, or principal.

In case your child has turned out to be a bully

If you find out that your child is bullying others, don’t ignore the matter. Sit down and talk to him. Listen to him but don’t support him for his activities. Warn him that bullying will not be tolerated and outline the consequences if he is found bullying others. Encourage him/her to understand what it is to be bullied. Increase your supervision of your child’s activities and whereabouts. Guide him towards positive activity. Engage him in some household work so that he has lesser time to do mischiefs. Spend as much time possible with your kid.

Stop being aggressive towards your child. Be polite and stern according to the situation. Praise him/her for appropriate behaviors.