Teen Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is all about being forced into a certain way of living, dressing, talking, socializing and even thinking – simply because that is how everyone else you know behaves, dresses, talks, socializes and thinks.

All of us wish to gain and retain the respect and admiration of our peers. It can be terribly painful to watch a peer humiliating us or even speaking negatively about us.

Why Peer Pressure is So Powerful?

Adolescence brings with it so awkwardness and uncertainty, as teens and belonging to a group of friends affirms their self-worth and supports them as they negotiate toward adulthood. As they distance themselves from their parents, they increasingly use their friends as their primary confidants and rely upon their advice and support. Some teenagers become excessively dependent on their friends that their frineds become a crutch and thus avoid making their own decisions and developing their own tastes.

Your kid might end up reading books that others read, watching television programs and movies that others watch and using the language that others use. He does so fearing that he might be left out of all the conversation. S/he might end up staying out late at night or eating out all the time, simply because that is what the others do, regardless of whether s/he can afford or not.

To counter peer pressure

tell your kids to select his friends very carefully. He should have friends in a mixed group of people because that would keep everyone rooted and more tolerant of differences.

The second is to muster courage and tell people to mind their own business if they are interfering with your kids’s life. And most importantly, they have to remember that they are individuals and are unique.

Encourage Positive Relationships

It is important to encourage friendships among teens. We all want our children to be with persons who will have a positive influence, and stay away from persons who will encourage or engage in harmful, destructive, immoral, or illegal activities.

Show support

When there is warmth, kindness, consistency, respect, and love in parent-teen relationship the kids will flourish with increasing self-esteem, mental health, spirituality, and social skills. Encourage independent thought and expression. In this way, teens can develop a healthy sense of self and an enhanced ability to resist peer pressure.

Types of Peer Pressure

Positive peer pressure

The ability to develop healthy friendships and peer relationships depends on a teen’s self-identity, self-esteem, and self-reliance. Peer pressure can mobilize your teen’s energy, motivate for success, and encourage your teen to conform to healthy behavior. Peers can and do act as positive role models. Peers can demonstrate appropriate social behaviors.
Any situation in which peers support and encourage constructive actions for one another is positive peer pressure like a friend encourages your teen to stay home and study hard for an upcoming exam.

Neutral peer pressure

This is the peer pressure to go along with the crowd in a way that’s not harmful to others like going with friends to the movie they’re all dying to see etc.

Negative peer pressure.

Peer pressure can impair good judgment.

The teen may be under the peer pressure to do something that places him in danger or is hurtful to others like he may be coaxed to drink, smoke cigarettes, and use drugs, encouraged to cut school, dared to join his friends in other risky activities, or expected to be cruel to unpopular kids.

Talk to him openly will help you understand what leads him to do that. Teens are able to withstand negative peer pressure if their resolve is strong.